Breakup grief and healing a broken heart
But My Pain
Just as no two snowflakes are alike, no
two breakups are alike, and no two people feel the same grief, or feel the
pain and hurt in the same way when they break up.
Grief is very personal, but it is almost
always dependent on our attitude towards it - as explained in the following
excerpt from the ebook, 'How
to get Over a Breakup':
Oh, those agonizing first days after
a break up. Oh argh! We keep thinking we will wake up and this will all
just go away! And when we find it doesn'tthen we keep thinking we just
want to go to sleep and never wake up. "How can I go on? And why should
I want to? My world is gone! My reason for living...!" Remember those
consuming thoughts of hopelessness?
I truly believe your attitude is one of your most overlooked secrets to a full recovery. Attitude is simply
a matter of choosing how you will respond to any given situation. Life
is constantly asking questions of you, and your responses are all-important.
By choosing to change your negative approach to the break up, and replacing
it with a positive, healthy attitude about life, your suffering, the past,
the future, and your newyet to be experiencedrelationships, you
can actually control the quality of the peace and serenity that can
be found in any break up or divorce.
"If you are distressed by anything
external, the pain is not due to the
thing itself but to your own estimate of it;
and this you have the power to revoke at any moment."
The way you interpret or see the break
up depends largely on your attitude toward it. You may choose to focus
on the negative aspects of it, anticipating the worst, or you may choose
to look at it as a source of peace from months of strain, and an opportunity
to grow personally and improve your place in life. Sadly though, most
of the time we interpret it through a negative standing, and this causes
us much hurt and pain.
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