of a Relationship
Relationships can bring happiness into our lives
with more intimacy, higher self esteem, and increased confidence. But
relationships can also wreak havoc by making us angry or even jealous. No
one ever looks forward to a break up because it can lead to grief and hard
feelings. Still, sometimes a relationship needs to end and our commitment
to a boyfriend or girlfriend must come to an end.
It is always best to seek professional
relationship advice when considering letting go of a partner, especially
if the relationship is established and long term. Loneliness and depression
are common side effects for the newly single. Here is some basic advice for
dealing with your break up and avoiding unnecessary pain.
Initially, it is very important that you
and your relationship partner discuss the terms of the break up to make letting
go easier for both parties. It should be very clear why the relationship
is ending and why the relationship did not work out. At the same time, avoid
blaming either person at all cost. No one is entirely responsible for the
problems in any relationship, so it's important to remind each other of your
individual strengths as a boyfriend or girlfriend. Communication is a very
important part of this process and will require a lot of sensitivity to make
the letting go process easier.
Once you officially say goodbye and end
the relationship, it's time to spend time alone thinking about your intimate
experiences with your former boyfriend or girlfriend. You cannot expect to
end one relationship and go jumping immediately into another right away.
This is a very common mistake in the dating world and can often lead to even
more heartache than you can expect from a typical breakup.
Instead of looking for the next Mr. or
Ms. Right, spend more time with friends and family until much of the grief
has passed. The time you need to spend away from a new relationship should
depend upon the difficulty of the breakup and the emotional impact of the
letting go process.
Once you have spent a fair amount of time
outside of a relationship, you can begin thinking about how to begin dating
again to enjoy the benefits of having an intimate partner and a healthy
relationship. It's imperative that you wait until you have completely let
go of the former partner to avoid bringing old problems or baggage into any
new relationships. At this point, you should also be prepared to get very
clear about what you expect in your new relationship and what you will do
differently. You should have an idea of what traits any new relationship
partner should have, too.
Relationships can be very complicated and
difficult, especially when they end. If you learn to think of dating as a
learning experience, you will get much more out of the experience with your
boyfriend or girlfriend and find much more satisfaction from the overall
process. Again, you may need to seek professional relationship advice if
your situation is very sensitive.
In general, if you follow these basic steps
for moving out of a bad relationship and into a healthy one, you will find
more success than if you are too hasty or impulsive with letting go and starting
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